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I Want My Man to Find Me Irresistible

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The key to getting your guy to find you irresistible is to get inside his mind. Your body language needs to correspond with what you're saying. Add to this the perfect tone of voice and you have the recipe for success. He will find you irresistible, unforgettable, and every other superlative you can think of. You're probably thinking no, that's way too easy. Yes it is, but think about it. How often do we really have those three key components switched on at the same time? You may have tried this before without success, but if only one of these attributes has been lacking you will have come across as false and manipulative, certainly not irresistible. Men love to be teased, BUT, we're talking playful teasing here that makes them feel good and stir their sexual energy. We don't mean the other teasing, where they are kept dangling like a puppet on a string. This will make any guy head for the door and you can forget any long term commitment. You won't be irresis

Improving Your Relationships - Are You Really Listening?

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Time and again I witness the lack of real communication between service providers and customers, management and subordinates, and friends and family members. Just observe those around you. Watch with your eyes and your ears the numerous human interactions that touch your personal world. How many times do you sense a lack of shared understanding between the parties? Shared understanding is the real essence of communication. Unless achieved, the effort is merely a dialogue -- or often a monologue -- of words. Since words are interpreted from many perspectives, you may not even have a shared understanding of a single word. Perspectives are determined by previous experiences, education, cultural and value differences, gender and age differences, language and translation or interpretation. Visualize the color blue. We would both choose a blue paint chip. We both would be correct regardless of which blue we each selected. But we would not necessarily have a shared understanding of the co

Why Your Husband Complains About Everything You Ask Him to Do

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"What? You not only want me to do the dishes, but you want me to be happy about doing the dishes?" Remember that line from the trailer of the movie the Breakup? I love that clip because it is such a great example of the difference between how men and women view love and relationships. This article will share the secrets of how men love. First understand that men and women love differently. *Our tender images of affection and sweetness are how women love. Hugs, kisses, and kind words are how men get sex. Listen to how men express their affection to fellow men, and you will see a glimpse into the way a man shows affection. The best example I can think of is watching Clint Eastwood's character in Gran Torino as he talks to his friend the barber. I would quote him but the man language could offend. Second, male affection involves complaining because to a man, sacrifice equals the expression of love. *To a guy love equals pain or sacrifice. If a man spends $100 on a women

How to Be a Good Listener in a Relationship

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As we evolve, it is becoming more and more difficult to really hear what other people are saying. Really listening and understanding another person doesn't just happen automatically. When people communicate, the message is often lost or misinterpreted for many reasons. The first place communication gets lost is if the receiver is unaware that his partner is trying to send an important message. So it can help to clearly ask him if he is available for a discussion. Be Available to Your Partner The second place communication gets lost is if the receiver is not available intellectually or emotionally. So the person in need of being heard needs to be willing to wait until the receiver can listen with full attention. The next problem with listening occurs because in most interactions at the same time someone sends us a message, we are busy in our own heads formulating our response. This keeps us from really hearing and understanding the information being sent. Understand the Other'